We also know that some pathways that were likely damaged because of the brain being squished in utero and during the first year of his life are beginning to regenerate. The human brain is amazing and baby brains are even more so. Even the NICU nurses and doctors told us that would happen - that pathways would likely regenerate.
So we are thinking that because of the combination of all these things, plus the addition of phenomenal therapists, Nicholas is having an explosion of development. He's been trying to roll over completely for ages now. He could roll over, but he wasn't great at it and he really hated being on his belly. I'm sure it was uncomfortable because he wasn't used to being in that position for the first year of his life. Plus, having the g-tube button may have hindered that somewhat too. He recently began sleeping on his belly and enjoying it. I put him down on his back and no matter how many times I've gone into his room to check on him and put him back on his back (wanted to make sure he wasn't stuck!), I'd go back in to find him on his belly again.
He's also started rolling himself around the room to get to places. Obviously this is pretty far behind developmentally, but it's something he couldn't do previously, so it's super exciting! He's become incredibly quick at getting places by rolling there. The other day, Mike and I went out on a date for his birthday (first "official" date night since the twins were born!). One of Zach's amazing taekwondo instructors babysat the kids for us (Zach planned a night of watching about 12 movies and eating popcorn). When we got home, the babysitter told us that Nicholas had been trying to sit up all night. We were floored. He had certainly never tried anything like that for us! She said, yep, he just kept trying. Because the kids were all up (babysitters let you stay up late and eat junk food - they're the BEST!), we were able to see Nicholas roll over to his belly, take his arms, and push up. It was nothing we'd ever seen him do before.
Most recently, I was home on a weekend day and was sitting on the floor playing with Zach. My phone was on the floor next to me and Nicholas realized it was there. He rolled over onto his belly and lifted up his head (getting stronger every single day) and then he started a slow but very determined army crawl towards my phone. I didn't believe it, so I called Mike into the room and moved the phone further away from him. He did it again. We've tried with toys, remotes, dog toys, a brother... but the only thing he currently seems motivated to army crawl for is a cell phone. So. Our cell phones have been hanging out on the floor recently a lot so that Nicholas can get more practice. His therapists were amazed when Mike showed them and Nicholas spent that entire therapy session army crawling for Mike's phone.
When I was pregnant with Nicholas, Mike and I were desperate for information about what hydrocephalus means to an individual. We were scared that we were setting Nicholas up for a difficult life. We needed to understand what we needed for him - how we would be able to help him, what help he would need, what the outcome would be for him. The high risk OB, the neurosurgeon that would ultimately become Nicholas's, my regular OB, even the pediatrician at Zach's office all told us there's nothing we can tell until he's here. The spectrum of how hydrocephalus affects an individual is so wide, and it can change throughout an individual's life, Now that Nicholas is here, I understand what that means. I've become entrenched in an incredibly supportive and strong hydrocephalus community since joining the HA to co-chair the WALK. Just among this small group there is a huge difference in how hydrocephalus has affected them or their loved ones. From a woman with over 200 brain surgeries to a teen aspiring to be a doctor, hydrocephalus has run the gamut.
So every day I remind myself what the NICU nurses told us - let Nicholas write his own story. Don't write it for him, just help him write it. And what an amazing story this warrior is writing.
